Involving Kids In Sports Author: David Beart [1] Whether you have a
boy or a girl, chances are there is plenty of athletic activities
available right in your own community that caters to their age and
skill level. Athletics and sports in general are a supportive
part of growing up and help kids set the foundation for
socialization, team work and a feeling of pride and accomplishment
in themselves. The trick is to start them out with a
non-competitive attitude and allow them to develop their own likes
and dislikes for activities. Just because you dream of having
a football or softball star, doesn’t mean your child will follow
suit and pushing them in a direction they aren’t interested in (or
good at) causes insecurity and pressure. Too many parents
become involved in their children’s sporting events as if it is a
direction indication on their own ability. It’s as if they
are reliving their own childhood or making up for something they
didn’t do by sitting on the sidelines pressuring their child to do
better or be the best. When you involve your kids in sports
it is vital to be empathetic, patient and realize that they will
come into and out of their athletic abilities on their own
terms. There are plenty of kids who are intimidated by
competition among peers who crumble in the face of a
adversity. When they get the ball, are open for the shot,
have a chance to kick the goal – they become paralyzed.
Frustrating to watch, but parents should encourage confidence
rather than game time success. By pushing too hard, parents
will most certainly cause a negative feeling in their children
about sports. In elementary aged sports it is difficult to
set the “real” athletes apart from those who just want to
participate and hang out with their friends. The reality is
there should be no divisions. Engaging in a team sport helps
them to develop confidence in others and themselves and they see
themselves as part of a larger picture. If your child is the
one who barely moves during a soccer game or has never made contact
with a ball when holding a bat – they should be commended for being
out there doing their best and trying. It is also important
to excuse typical gender roles and allow your child to participate
in whatever interests them. Tennis, ballet or gymnastics may
not have been your dream sport and you may personally feel ill at
the thought of them – but YOU aren’t the one doing it. If
your child is genuinely interested for more reasons than to just
please you chances are they will be successful in their own
ways. One huge aspect of involving your kids in sports is the
ability it offers to make friends. Far too many parents have
preset limitations on who their child can be friends with based on
their shallow preferences of which parents they like or who lives
in the nicest house. On the playing feel, all becomes
equal. Whereas in school children are often separated by
ability, chastised for not doing well and pressured to conform to
the rules and regulations athletics are a more creative outlet
where they can test their own wings. Sure, there are rules
for each game but the bottom line, especially with young children
and in recreational sports leagues, the experience should be
fun! If they whine about going to practice, dismiss the
thought of a game and sulk before or after games it is in your
child’s best interest to involve them in something else. As
your child gets older the competition will get tougher. The
coaches will expect more and the entire goal of participating will
be winning. That mindset is unavoidable and although not
fashionable to admit out loud – it’s the absolute truth. If
your child grows up always feeling as though they are second best
or unsuccessful they will lose interest completely when it really
matters the most. The goal of involving your kids in sports
early on should be to instill a love of the game, to keep them
busy, to get them exercise and allow them to try things out so that
they can find their niche in life. It may not be sports at
all, but some day they will see the trophy on their wall and
remember the year they played 7-8 softball or football.
Whether the memories are fond or bothersome largely depends on the
attitude of their parents. Involve your kids in sports and
allow them to be the ones participating. If you make the
whole thing about you, you will only turn what could be a positive
and fulfilling experience into something negative. Article
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