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You can improve your listening skills by trying some of these steps:

• Don't be thinking ahead to what you are going to say while your partner is talking
  
• Focus all your attention on what your partner is saying - don't day dream or think of other things
  
• Turn off the TV, computer and radio so there are no distractions while you talk.
  
• Don't interrupt them. Allow them to finish what they are saying before you talk.
  
• Don't belittle their feelings or anything that they have to say. Instead, show them that you respect how they are feeling and that you are willing to work on things together.
  
• Try repeating what your partner just said back to them. For instance, "So you feel that we don't spend enough time together?"

Part of the difficulty of dealing with problems in a marriage is that they often develop slowly over time. Because there are no sudden changes in your relationship it can make it more difficult to spot problems brewing until they get really big and seem nearly impossible to deal with.

There are almost always signs of pending trouble in a marriage, though, and if you keep your eyes open for them you will be much more likely to spot them early on so that you and your spouse can work through them more easily.

Here are some of the most common signs of problems in a marriage:

• Loss of communication
  
• One partner withdrawing or "hiding" to avoid the other
  
• Having the same argument over and over
  
• Loss of intimacy
  
• Constant critisism

For more in depth information on each of these signs of problems in marriage and help to get your marriage back on track, check out this article:

Signs of Problems in Marriage and How to Deal with Them

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Probably the most important thing you can do when it comes to solving problems in marriage is to talk about them. The only way to work through problems and find solutions is to bring them out into the open and tackle them head-on with your spouse by talking them over.

However, it is so important to remember that arguing or blaming don't solve problems. When you argue about a problem in your marriage with your spouse or try to put all the blame on them (or vice versa) it can just make the problem bigger and create new problems in your relationship.

If you and your spouse currently are not communicating very well it can be difficult to imagine how you could sit down and talk without arguing. 

I'd recommend checking out this article for tips on how to talk about problems with your spouse in a way that will benefit both of you:

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When you can talk about problems together in a constructive environment without losing your tempers finding solutions seems more manageable and in almost every case it is possible to get your marriage back on track.

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