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Black women:Aren’t you tired of “single black women” topic?

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strongiQuestion by Jalita KMBAi Black womenArent you tired of single black women topicstrongThis is funny but true, i got it from EssenceStop telling me how I think, what to do, how to look, who to date, when to exhale...I beg of you. I get it. I really do. Bashing or even borderline bruising Black women is what hot in da streetz. By bashing I mean telling us why we aint nothing, aint gonna have nothing, aint gonna have nobody to share nothing with. Sure, it gets you book deals and blog views and radio shows and talk shows and photo ops and movie deals and basically... paid. I get it. You found a hustle that works and you only have to kick a group of people that are already down to do it.Oh, you think youre being helpful offering up your selfhelp and howto and best way opinions to us Even those of you that are not directly authoring the yadayada, do you really think youre helping by adding in your tsktsk or cosign two cents response to the media swirl about all the problems with the sisterhood Youre not. You are adding to the already cacophonous wall of noise. I respectfully request that right after commenting on this post J... everyone just shut up.I am talking to celebs and socalled relationship gurus, writers, columnists, bloggers, regular folks talking in the coffee shop, women and men, young and old, Black, White, and everything in between... just STOP. STOP requoting the statistics about successful educated Black women never getting married or having kids. Would you rather we stayed stupid and broke for the sake of a ring Of course not, so how is reminding us of the statistics going to help Its just going to make the desperate more desperate and the hopeless less hopeful. I cant see the good in that. Those of us staying optimistic become less so in the face of all the overwhelming evidence. Maybe we will get married, maybe we wont but the continuous talk of a crisis in the community because of our unmarried state is just plain mean. STOP telling me how to look to catch a man. No, its not my weight. Ive been everything from a size 8 to a 22 and back again and had a man at every one of those sizes. No, its not my hair, Ive been straight, kinky, wavy, weaved, ponytailed and darn near bald... had a man at every step of the way there, too. For every socalled flawless woman with a ring, I can name two socalled flawless women without one. Oh, magazinesthis is for you, too. Stop telling us that this lipstick, that highheeled boot, that pencil skirt is the thing we MUST own to snare Mr. Right. STOP telling me to date or not to date White men. All of you. Seriously. Ill date that blue dude from Avatar if I freakin want to. People dating the rainbow coalition, good for you. People only attracted to a certain type, good for you. People who have given up on one type and are looking for another type to swoop in and save them, good luck with that. Either way, Im tired of hearing about it. STOP looking for someone to blame. Its not that all Black women are mean or picky or highmaintenanceGTFOH with that. Its not that all Black men are trifling or thuggish or underemployedthats bullshiggity, too. All the Black men are not in jail, all the sisters arent expecting too muchthose are cop out answers. Im sure every woman who is single could sit down and point to a variety of reasons good, bad and inbetween why they are that way today. Each story is an individual one both personal and unique to the person telling it. Let them own that story, quit painting with the broad strokes... STOP acting like we are either sitting around waiting to exhale or are gasping our last breath surrounded by 20 cats. Can we not be vibrant, complete individuals regardless of relationship status And this goes for you too other sisters... stop giving us the Im so sad for you look because you have a man and we dont at the moment. This just makes us angry and less sympathetic should things not work out between you and your boo. We dont need sympathy, just a little support and a smile. Please and thank you in advance. STOP acting like my brains are a detriment. I shall not be dumbing it down for the cause of snaring a man. Nor will I emasculate him by pointing out all the stuff I may know that he doesnt. Not everybody can match my Scrabble game... Im evil with it, son... evil. Dont come at me with the Trivial Pursuit either... moving on. This whole concept of acting like Im less than I am to make a man feel like more than he is... thats crap. That means we are not a fit. Onto the next... hopefully. STOP judging me because I have standards. Not prejudices... standards. Sure I would date the UPS man if we found each other attractive and interesting. But the UPS man who has four kids, four baby mamas, two parole officers and a habit of blowing his paycheck on a great batch of chronic... hell no. That doesnt make me snobby or bougie, that makes me selfaware of my own code of values, tolerance and limitations. STOP asit is worth the read for black women because this is exactly how i feel.strongBest answerstrongpiAnswer by Sazh KatzroyibrMan did you have to write an essay. Im just gonna say Whatever. Everyone is tired of all the black this black that topics.pstrongAdd your own answer in the comments!strong

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