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How do I forgive my mentally ill mother and move on?

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strongiQuestion by imnoturmomma,buti How do I forgive my mentally ill mother and move onstrongI am 33. My mother and I have had a difficult relationship for many years. When I was 3 she married a man who beat my little brother and me. When I was 10 he left her and she started dating men in prison, one of whome moved in with us when he was released and ended up sexually abusing me. My mother sent me to live with my grandmother, as she didnt believe me at first. When I moved back in with her and the abuse continued, she believed me, but kept dating him for another 5 years. When I was 17 she got pregnant with twins by her high school sweetheart, who promptly dropped out of the picture. She was doing well for a while, got a degree, had a good job. Then she had weight loss surgery and met a guy online. She moved him in after the first date and married him a few months later. He turned out to be gay. My younger brother was sent to live with our dad when he was 12. The twins are almost 15 now and mom cant handle them at all. She threatens to give them away, calls the cops on them when they fight, etc, etc, etc.Now, of all things, she says she has to cut me out of her life because Im not supportive enough. She has finally been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and is going through a new treatment, dpt. Any how, she called me and said that she needs encouragement from me and I honestly told her that it hurts to much to get involved in her healing, only to have her fall again. This is not the first breakthrough she has had. I dont know why it is bugging me so much that she has cut me off, its probably good for me, but it is really digging at me. Talking to her is useless, what should I dostrongBest answerstrongpiAnswer by JaneibrShe has a disease, if she had cancer would you forgive her and move onI understand what she has done has been despicable, but for most of it she couldnt make the right choices because of her illness.pstrongGive your answer to this question below!strong

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Body frames vary and its difficult for any simple measurement to work out a persons frame . Its more accurate to recommend a weight range, rather than a specific weight for a given height.To calculate your BMI select your correct height and weight and calculate the figure as below.BMI will vary slightly according to gender.If youd like to calculate your BMI , follow these three steps. 1. Work out your height in metres and multiply the figure by itself. 2. Measure your weight in kilograms 3. Divide the weight by the height squared . For example, you might be 1.6m 5ft 3in tall and weigh 65kg 10st 3lb. The calculation would then be1.6 x 1.6 2.56. BMI would be 65 divided by 2.56 25.39.