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How many times have you gotten into a situation that yielded bad results because you had the wrong ideas in mind?

Certain perceptions of men can mess up your chances of having a great relationship with them. When we assume given things about the opposite sex, your actions could PREVENT the relationship from going in a healthy direction.

Thus, let’s take a look at a couple of the most common myths about men which you need to steer clear of:

#1: Guys are into "low maintenance" women.

Actually, this wouldn't be a problem if the term "low maintenance" wasn't misconstrued in the first place. Oftentimes, when some misguided women hear this adjective, they equate it to having no opinion of their own and being a complete PUSHOVER.

This attitude reminds me of the 1950's housewife archetype often portrayed in TV sitcoms of the same era.

You know what I'm talking about: Sugary-sweet on the outside, but brimming with unspoken emotions on the inside.

She's the one who's afraid to mess up a perfectly good relationship by speaking up too much. This is the kind of girl who has regrettably shut off her ability to express her feelings in a healthy way.

Sadly, this glaring misconception is unconsciously driving many women to behave in a very NEEDY way. In the back of their minds, they take the idea of being low-maintenance to such an EXTREME that they've become a mere shadow of their former selves.

Being “low maintenance” in the truest sense of the word is defined by REALISTIC qualities.

This is a well-adjusted, reasonable person who doesn’t throw a fit when her partner unwittingly makes the occasional offhand remark.

(And I emphasize “OCCASIONAL”, as opposed to “habitually”, but anyway…)

This is also the kind of girl who can properly manage her feelings MOST of the time and keeps emotional meltdowns to a reasonable minimum. When it comes to mood swings, low maintenance women don’t often have these and only under the most stressful of circumstances.

All in all, this is an ideal picture of what low maintenance is all about.

Therefore, it’s NOT about being so laid-back to the point where you’re frazzled and out of breath from trying to please a guy’s every whim…

…or even TOLERATE selfishness.

And being low maintenance is definitely a far cry from transforming into a disturbingly submissive version of yourself.

Remember, there’s a difference between a cool girl that doesn’t get upset over the little things…

…and the emotional SLAVE who doesn’t have any purpose aside from sacrificing her dignity and independence in the name of “love”.

The mentality you should have is that a relationship is NOT the only thing you have going for you.

If you would make a map of your life right now, would you say it’s dominated by huge chunks of land exclusively reserved for a boyfriend?

Or does this map have equally allocated areas meant for your family, friends, career and hobbies?

Even though we’re always talking about how to get into a good, healthy relationship, you have to understand that this is only ONE PART of your multi-faceted self.

The SUM of your pursuits in life defines who you are.

If you build your universe around whether you’re single or not, your resulting actions will create a very unattractive impression of neediness.

You wouldn’t want anyone to believe that having a boyfriend is the ONLY thing that motivates you in life, right? You know you’re TOO GOOD to act like that.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s WONDERFUL to have a partner who adores and respects you. That crazy rush you feel when you fall in love can greatly inspire you do great things in the other areas of your life.

However, my point is that you should still retain a good sense of PERSPECTIVE when you *do* get into a relationship. What that means is that you’d be just as fine even if you didn’t have a boyfriend at the moment.

Your life was just as fine before you met him, and you can certainly leave if you’re not being treated the way you should be.

Of course, I don’t mean this in an arrogant way nor am I suggesting that our partners should be the pushovers instead!

All I’m saying is that you shouldn’t be scared to leave the comfort zone of your relationship if it isn’t helping your personal growth.

Also, in no way should you cover up your true feelings by waiving your right to SPEAK UP if you need to (i.e. when the terms are unfavorable).

A good relationship is always a TWO-WAY street, so don’t let the low-maintenance myth (or rather, misconception) tell you otherwise.

#2: Falling in Love is Eternal Bliss Guaranteed

The other common trap women fall into is the assumption that those butterfly-in-the-stomach feelings you first get when you meet someone will remain CONSTANT in the relationship.

However, this just isn’t going to happen. Even happily married couples who’ve been together for decades know that their initial infatuation for each other evolved into a deeper and more MATURE sense of loving.

This kind of love goes beyond the initial rush that all new couples go through. This is the love that’s weathered countless emotional storms, power struggles and other CHALLENGES.

The end result is a rock-solid relationship that doesn’t constantly require you to feel the heart-quickening rush found in infatuation.

But there’s no reason to panic over this fact of life. You shouldn’t be afraid of outgrowing this primary stage in your relationship since better things are headed your way.

Over time, the falling in love stage will eventually be replaced by something more powerful in the long run. It’s just that you’re going to go through a series of trials as a couple before you get there.

Don’t buy into the myth that loving your guy as you do now will be enough to get you through the years. Remember that neither of you are perfect; somewhere along the way, your “little” differences are going to catch up to you.

(I’ve heard of couples breaking up over their brand of toothpaste, but hopefully your own relationship won’t go to that extreme!)

I’ll be honest with you here – you’re going to FIGHT tooth and nail over things like this, and you’re going to wake up and smell the coffee sooner or later. But power struggles are NORMAL after the familiarity settles in.

If you can accept the reality that love will inevitably undergo a transformation over time, then you’ll have no reason to worry about the growing pains in your relationship.

Otherwise, insisting that everything will run smoothly or take care of itself will BLIND you to speedbumps in the future.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t enjoy the moment because being HAPPY is the point of having a relationship, right?

You just have to be aware that things will change eventually. However, you can stay happy as long as you’re cool with having to deal with the reality check phase in due time.

(No need to worry your pretty little self about stuff UNTIL you have to!)

All in all, finding happiness in a man’s arms is best done by keeping a REALISTIC perspective no matter how head over heels you may feel at a given moment.

There are a lot of impractical beliefs and notions that we women are unnecessarily exposed to in these modern times. Like it or not, picking up unrealistic perceptions of love and dating is just a TV show or DVD rental away.

In this confusing sea of misinformation, a sassy girl definitely needs to keep her wits afloat!

For the most part, whatever we read in books or see onscreen are distilled versions of life at best. It doesn’t necessarily reflect what happens in REAL situations!

So we can’t project unrealistic fantasies onto real life and NOT expect to run into problems!

The real world naturally includes the complexities of human behavior. You need to keep this in mind when considering what men want from us and what we should expect from them.



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“Does my boyfriend really love me?” is a question everyone asks. If you answered no to any of those point above, that doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you. But if you answered no to more than one, you should look carefully at his actions.

He may say he loves you every day, several times, but nothing gives away his true feelings quite like his actions. In fact, someone who says it too much might be doing so to try to convince himself, or you, that it’s true when it really isn’t.

If he treats you like you’re precious when you’re alone but acts as if you’re not there when you’re with your friends, think about why that might be. Someone who loves you should be able to show it no matter where you are or whom you’re with.

And a boyfriend who treats your friends and family with respect is much more likely to feel genuine love for you than one who disses your family or doesn’t seem to want to even interact with them at all.

A boyfriend who truly cares about you will want to be able to get along with the people you care about. And while thoughts of marriage may be years away, he knows that alienating your family would be a poor choice in the even that you did want to marry.

The most important thing when trying to figure out whether your boyfriend really loves you or not is simply to notice what he does. Next time you ask yourself, “Does my boyfriend really love me?” pay attention to his actions, and you’ll have your answer.

1. Be completely OK with flirting.

This statement might seem funny on paper, but hear me out. Have you seen men fumble their lines and trip all over while trying to flirt with women? These guys are not completely comfortable with the concept of flirting. Before you can successfully make women give you their numbers, you have to be completely relaxed. Don't worry about forgetting the pick up lines you labored to memorize the whole week. Your real flirting personality must develop naturally by consistent and frequent practice.

2. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Flirting is a mating ritual that humans go through before they can really get involved. Verbalizing your feelings is one way of letting women know how you feel. The key to a good conversation is to act genuine and true to yourself. If you're dishing out a compliment, you must mean it, or it will come off as forced or fake.

3. Send out the appropriate body language cues.

Part of your over-all believability depends on how you show the nonverbal signals that ultimately brand your words as true. A man cannot say he's confident to a woman if his hands are shaking or if he's fidgeting.

These three simple steps make up the fundamentals of flirting. You can study all the advanced courses all you want but it all starts with these basic steps.

Romantic Comedies

A lot of first dates take place at a movie theater. There’s minimal pressure to talk, the atmosphere is dark and cozy, and the story feeds the conversation afterwards. In reality, the movies can be a bad date idea if you choose the wrong film.

Romantic comedies are called “chick flicks” for good reason…they feed the need for drama that’s innate in all females. While they may seem innocent enough for a first date, they’re not. Think of it this way : All of the mushy dialogue and on-screen kisses are subliminal messages to your date.

Her Place

Going to her place is the epitome of a bad first date. You’re putting all of the control in her hands. That’s when she starts cooking for you.

While some women won’t admit it, cooking for and taking care of a guy comes natural to them. That’s what they saw their mothers do for their fathers, and that’s what they want to do with a guy they care about. By feeding into her domestic instincts, you’re sending her the message that you’re ready to settle down.

Weddings

While it’s uncommon to go to a wedding for a first date, it does happen. Even if it’s not the first time you’re taking her out, steer clear of bringing her to weddings for a couple of months or so. The sight of true love bring out the warm-fuzzies in a woman, and pretty soon, she’ll be fantasizing about the day she marries you.

Walking

First dates are, by their very nature, awkward. Romantic strolls are even more awkward. There’s nothing to fill in the odd conversational gaps, or if you two do manage to hit it off, she’ll likely think she’s found her soul mate. Wait for the third of fourth date before you two discover the great outdoors together.

Meeting Friends

The instant you meet her friends, you’ve become more than just a guy she’s dating. In essence, you’ve become her boyfriend. The same holds true for introducing her to your social circle, so hold off on this one.

First dates are designed to better acquaint two people, but when you let others in on the deal, you’re suddenly subjected to their critiques too. Her friends may not approve of you, in which case, she’ll probably heed their advice. On the other hand, they could really like you, thereby having high expectations of your relationship with her.

Final Thoughts

The more intimate the environment, the more you’ll feed her thoughts of a relationship. A first date should allow for two people to get to know one another, and nothing more. With that said, if the occasion is high on romance, squash the idea.

The short answer is NO. And here's the reason why...

==> Men and women approach dating in different ways. Guys pretty much know they like a girl before the date begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, they're already hooked.

For guys, the first couple of dates is the time where they're obsessed with proving themselves (and maybe get a little action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is to do the "romantic" gestures we see "working" in Hollywood movies.

==> Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify" a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which can ELIMINATE a guy as a potential dating partner.

ONE wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends" speech!

So when a guy comes on too strong with the romantic gestures, it means that the guy show that you really don't care about who she is as a person. Instead you're giving away your power and showing that you're already into her before she's even proven herself.

A woman wants to feel like she's EARNED a guy's interest. And not solely because of her looks. While she's still trying to figure him out, he's already demonstrating his interest.

So what do women want from men?

The answer is all girls are looking for one primary thing :

SEXUAL ATTRACTION

Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.

You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of her mind.

To create sexual attraction, you have to demonstrate the qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and stimulated. For instance, the qualities include :

• Challenging her actions and statements
• Using humor to tease and banter
• Showing a spontaneous attitude
• Demonstrating a high level of confidence
• Being trustworthy with a little bit of danger
• Showing independence in your life
• Making her feel important

Now the last quality can be a little confusing. :-)

Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done nothing to prove herself.

With that being said, you want to show you're interested & make her feel important as you're getting to know her. So while you should never show up on your first couple of dates with an armful of roses, you should show your interest IF she's passing your tests and meets your standards.

In other words, if you're having a great time and she meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you can start showing that she's earning your approval.

Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...

You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the door, leading her with your body language, and paying for the first date). But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the sexual tension that's necessary for attraction.

So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out if she's right for you!

Date Idea #2- Grab a Few Drinks (or a Cup of Coffee)

Here’s another one of my favorite date ideas. Alcohol has been a social lubricant for thousands of years. You can easily have a fun date, without breaking the bank, by inviting her out for a drink or two. (Or take her to a coffeehouse if you don’t like to drink)

The key here is to keep it to ONLY a drink or two. At this point, the two of you will be relaxed and having fun, without running the risk of drink of getting intoxicated.

And here’s another great tip…Pick a bar that has a pool table, dart board, or other games. These items can help you break the tension and have lots of fun!

Date Idea #3- Do Something Physical

A date can be something as simple as going for a hike or going ice skating. I like a ‘physical’ date, because it breaks you out of the sit-down-and-talk mindset which most guys choose when dating comes to mind. Furthermore, taking her to a park is an excellent way to build a romantic setting while remaining relatively inexpensive.

Cheap fun date ideas aren’t that hard to find. If you use your imagination and a little creativity, you can impress a woman, while not going broke. Just follow the 3 tips above, and you’ll be on your way to creating that spark of chemistry! :-)